Also, please subscribe to our YouTube channel and hit the bell icon if you would like to be notified when new videos are posted. Thank you so much for watching this video about cognitive behavioral therapy here in my virtual office, please hit the like button if you found this video helpful. And I hope this example of the mistake in thinking called personalization has been helpful. Are you blaming yourself? And if you're doing that, I welcome you and challenge you to ask yourself what else could be going on in the context of that particular disappointment or struggle and then talk it out with a friend. So I would welcome you and challenge you to notice your thoughts when things are disappointing or when you're in the midst of a struggle. And when we accept a lot of self blame, that leads us to feel depressed and anxious. So when we "over personalize", we accept a lot of self blame. Obviously, she got a better offer and that it's your fault that your friend can't come over instead of considering what your friend might be going through or understanding that perhaps there's something else going on that makes it very difficult for them to arrive. You tell yourself that you weren't interesting enough to hang out with that. So, for example, if a friend tells you that, you know, they can't come over because something has come up, and they have to attend to it instead of thinking, well, your friend is probably telling you the truth, that something came up that she has to deal with and maybe that's going to be difficult for her. Instead of taking into account the fact that most struggles, most disappointments are multifactorial, they are due to a lot of different concerns. But oftentimes people will make the mistake in thinking that this disappointment is personally their fault. And the truth is that we all struggle and that we are all going to have disappointments. And one of the forms that it can often take is when we accept our disappointment and our struggle as an indictment on our character, we personalize our struggle. Now, this might take a couple of different forms. And when we start to take responsibility erroneously, that can lead us to blaming ourselves for things that go wrong when in fact we didn't really have control over that. And this is a mistake that occurs when someone takes the blame for an external event. So the mistake that I'm going to talk about today is called personalization. Today, I'm talking about mistakes in thinking, and it is important in cognitive behavioral psychotherapy to identify when people are making a mistake in thinking. 41st Street Suite 213 Miami Beach, FL 33140 (305) 674-1314 Virtual Office episodes: CBT Therapy: Covid-19 Series: Follow on Facebook: Hi, I'm Dr. For appointments (in person in Miami Beach, virtual for anyone in Florida) Dr. This mistake in thinking or "cognitive distortion" is an important one to understand in order to reduce stress and anxiety. Calbeck's Virtual Office is all about Personalization.
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